Let silence be your general rule; or say only what is necessary and in few words. We shall, however, when occasion demands, enter into discourse sparingly, avoiding such common topics as gladiators, horse-races, athletes; and the perpetual talk about food and drink. Above all avoid speaking of persons, either in the way of praise or blame, or comparison. If you can, win over the conversation of your company to what it should be by your own. But if you should find yourself cut off without escape among strangers and aliens, be silent. (164)
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Speak minimally and avoid trivial or contentious topics; stay silent when you cannot control the conversation.
- In plain terms
- Talk little, avoid gossip, and stay quiet when out of place.
- What can you take from it?
- Use silence to maintain focus and avoid unnecessary conflict.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When is speaking more valuable than silence?
- How can you contribute without dominating conversation?
Another view
Silence can be misinterpreted as disengagement.
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