It is precisely because we can never really know ourselves, but only guess, that we are so vehement about the good and the evil ascribed to us by others. In maintaining ourselves against all comers, we are maintaining something that is unknown, uncertain, and never wholly provable. We need a chorus of consent, and we are engaged in an unceasing proselytizing campaign in our own behalf.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- People fight to defend their unknown selves against others' judgments, seeking consent through constant self-justification.
- In plain terms
- We argue to prove our worth because we don't really know ourselves.
- What can you take from it?
- We defend our image because identity is uncertain.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you know who you are?
- What opinions of you bother you?
Another view
Sometimes defending reputation is necessary for trust.
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