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What does it mean?
Breaking someone's self-image for truth can cause significant harm.
In plain terms
Destroying how a person sees themselves is terrible.
What can you take from it?
Protecting self-image is important.

Where it applies

  • personal conflict
  • mental health
  • ethical discussion

Putting it to work

  • giving feedback
  • handling conflict
  • practicing empathy

Questions to consider

  • Is truth always worth the pain?
  • How do you protect self-image?

Another view

Sometimes facing harsh truth is necessary for growth.

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