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What does it mean?
Incestuous symbiosis is the tendency to stay tied to family equivalents to avoid the weight of freedom and responsibility. It sacrifices human development for certainty.
In plain terms
Staying dependent on family to avoid freedom stops personal growth.
What can you take from it?
Accept freedom and responsibility to continue developing.

Where it applies

  • coming of age
  • family dynamics
  • career independence

Putting it to work

  • establish boundaries
  • take calculated risks

Questions to consider

  • Are you avoiding responsibility for safety?
  • What does independence cost?

Another view

Some dependency is necessary for early development and security.

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