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That Kitty was capable of any deep grief was unbelievable. He had gradually grown to think of her as something unapproachable and callous. She would get a divorce, of course, and eventually she would marry again. He began to consider this. Whom would she marry? He laughed bitterly, stopped; a picture flashed before him-of Kitty's arms around some man whose face he could not see, of Kitty's lips pressed close to other lips in what was surely: passion.

F. Scott Fitzgerald#57

LossEmotionBreakupHeartbreakJealousy

About this quote

What does it mean?
A man struggles to believe his ex-lover can feel deep grief and imagines her moving on with passion for another.
In plain terms
He finds it hard to believe his ex is sad and imagines her with someone else.
What can you take from it?
We often struggle to believe others feel as deeply as we do.

Where it applies

  • processing a breakup
  • discussing emotional denial

Putting it to work

  • writing fiction
  • understanding grief

Questions to consider

  • Why do we doubt others capacity for pain?
  • How does imagining their happiness hurt you?

Another view

This assumes the subject is emotionally detached which may not be true.

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