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What does it mean?
A woman struggles to reconcile leaving someone she believed was good with the pain of that loss.
In plain terms
If he was good why did he leave? If he left was he bad? Why does it hurt if he was bad?
What can you take from it?
Pain of loss can contradict rational judgment of character.

Where it applies

  • post-breakup
  • relationship ending
  • self-reflection

Putting it to work

  • processing grief
  • analyzing relationships

Questions to consider

  • Does pain mean value?
  • Can a good person hurt you?

Another view

This internal debate is common but does not reflect the reality of the other person.

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