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One writes of scars healed, a loose parallel to the pathology of the skin, but there is no such thing in the life of an individual. There open wounds, shrunk sometimes to the size of a pinprick, but wounds still. The marks of suffering are more comparable to the loss of a finger, or of the sight of an eye. We may not miss them, either, for one minute in a year, but if we should there is nothing to be done about it.

F. Scott Fitzgerald#6

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Emotional scars do not heal completely; they remain as permanent losses.
In plain terms
Pain leaves permanent marks like losing a finger, not just scratches.
What can you take from it?
Accept that some wounds never fully disappear.

Where it applies

  • grief processing
  • recovering from abuse
  • life reflection

Putting it to work

  • accept scars
  • track triggers
  • forgive self

Questions to consider

  • What scars remain?
  • How do you live with them?

Another view

Some people do recover and feel whole again.

More from F. Scott Fitzgerald

  1. Sometimes it is harder to deprive oneself of a pain than of a pleasure.

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  2. 'Either you think - or else others have to think for you and take power from you, pervert and discipline your natural tastes, civilize and sterilize you.'

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  3. So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.

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