We never love someone. We just love the idea we have of someone. It's a concept of ours - summing up, ourselves - that we love.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Love is often directed at a mental projection of a person rather than their true self.
- In plain terms
- We fall in love with our own idea of someone, not the actual person.
- What can you take from it?
- Recognize when you are loving a concept instead of a person.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Do you know the person or your version of them?
Another view
Sometimes loving an idea can still be meaningful if shared.
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