'People who are having a love-sex relationship are continuously lying to each other because the very nature of the relationship demands that they do, because you have to make a love object of this person, which means that you editorialize about them. You cut out what you don't want to see, you add this if it isn't there. And so therefore you're building a lie.'
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- People in romantic relationships often lie by idealizing their partners and ignoring flaws to maintain the image of love.
- In plain terms
- Lovers deceive each other by editing reality to fit their romantic expectations.
- What can you take from it?
- Idealization in love requires selective perception.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Can love exist without idealization?
- How much honesty is needed in love?
Another view
Some deception in relationships can be harmless.
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