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What does it mean?
We can set conditions to support growth, but we cannot directly help someone change. The change must come from within.
In plain terms
Create conditions for growth but not help directly.
What can you take from it?
Support others through environment, not direct intervention.

Where it applies

  • mentoring
  • parenting
  • coaching

Putting it to work

  • set supportive conditions
  • step back

Questions to consider

  • How do you support others?
  • When is intervention appropriate?

Another view

Some situations require direct help to prevent harm.

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