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What does it mean?
Forgetting painful things might leave so little of the self that identity is at risk.
In plain terms
If I forgot everything painful, I might not have any life left.
What can you take from it?
Painful memories are part of what makes us who we are.

Where it applies

  • dealing with trauma
  • reflecting on life

Putting it to work

  • accept past hurts
  • preserve memories

Questions to consider

  • How much of you is your pain?
  • What would you forget if you could?

Another view

Holding onto pain can prevent moving forward.

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