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What does it mean?
People resist having their integrity or intelligence challenged, particularly when they already harbor self-doubts.
In plain terms
No one wants their smarts or honesty questioned, especially if they are unsure themselves.
What can you take from it?
Defensiveness often stems from internal insecurity rather than external attack.

Where it applies

  • performance reviews
  • arguments
  • feedback sessions

Putting it to work

  • approach criticism gently
  • recognize defensive reactions

Questions to consider

  • When do I get defensive?
  • What am I insecure about?

Another view

Sometimes intelligence or faith is actually questionable, not just perceived.

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