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Let the country mourn their hero; I grieve for the loss of the most fascinating companion I ever conversed with- the greatest and most simple of men- one of the nicest and most innocent- interesting beyond all, on shore, in public and even in private life. Men are not always themselves and put on their behaviour with their clothes, but if you live with a man on board a ship for years; if you are continually with him in his cabin, your mind will soon find out how to appreciate him. I could for ever tell you the qualities of this beloved man. I have not shed a tear for years before the 21st of October and since, whenever alone, I am quite like a child.

Horatio Nelson#40

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Nelson praises the deceased as a genuine and beloved companion, noting that true character is seen only through close living.
In plain terms
He says the dead man was real and kind, and you only know him well if you live close to him.
What can you take from it?
True character is revealed through close and sustained personal interaction.

Where it applies

  • mourning a peer
  • assessing a leader
  • long-term service

Putting it to work

  • value close relationships
  • judge people by actions not appearances

Questions to consider

  • How do you know someone truly?
  • What makes a companion valuable?

Another view

It relies on personal opinion which may not reflect public perception.

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