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If you ask your mother whether she knew about Peter Pan when she was a little girl she will say, 'Why, of course, I did, child,' and if you ask her whether he rode on a goat in those days she will say, 'What a foolish question to ask; certainly he did.' Then if you ask your grandmother whether she knew about Peter Pan when she was a girl, she also says, 'Why, of course, I did, child,' but if you ask her whether he rode on a goat in those days, she says she never heard of his having a goat. Perhaps she has forgotten, just as she sometimes forgets your name and calls you Mildred, which is your mother's name. Still, she could hardly forget such an important thing as the goat. Therefore there was no goat when your grandmother was a little girl. This shows that, in telling the story of Peter Pan, to begin with the goat (as most people do) is as silly as to put on your jacket before your vest. Of course, it also shows that Peter is ever so old, but he is really always the same age, so that does not matter in the least.

J. M. Barrie#17

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Details in stories change over time, showing that memory and tradition are unreliable.
In plain terms
Stories change as people forget details.
What can you take from it?
Memory alters stories over generations.

Where it applies

  • family history
  • lore
  • oral tradition

Putting it to work

  • verify sources
  • value context

Questions to consider

  • What stories do you tell?
  • How do you remember?

Another view

Details may change but core truths remain.

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