Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Tolkien notes most marriages are imperfect choices but emphasizes that the real soulmate is the one you are actually with.
- In plain terms
- Marriages often involve compromise but the right partner is whoever you chose.
- What can you take from it?
- Accepting your partner as right is better than seeking perfection elsewhere.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What makes a partner truly right?
- How do you balance idealism with reality in love?
Another view
This assumes staying married is always preferable.
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