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'[T]he boy's father has to do his part. He needs to mirror and affirm his son's maleness. He can play rough-and-tumble games with his son, in ways that are decidedly different from the games he would play with a little girl. He can help his son learn to throw and catch a ball. He can teach him to pound a square wooden peg into a square hole in a pegboard. He can even take his son with him into the shower, where the boy cannot help but notice that Dad has a penis, just like his, only bigger.' (Dr. Nicolosi - excerpt from transcript [2]

James Dobson#8

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The speaker advises fathers to engage in gender-specific play and exposure to affirm their son's masculinity.
In plain terms
Fathers should affirm sons' masculinity through play and exposure.
What can you take from it?
Affirm masculinity through specific father-son activities.

Where it applies

  • fathering
  • child development
  • parenting

Putting it to work

  • consider gender roles
  • evaluate parenting

Questions to consider

  • How should fathers parent sons?
  • What roles matter for identity?

Another view

This view limits gender expression and bonding.

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