In spite of the honestest efforts to annihilate my I-ity, or merge it in what the world doubtless considers my better half, I still find myself a self-subsisting, and, alas! self-seeking me.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Carlyle admits that despite efforts to merge her identity, she remains a distinct individual self.
- In plain terms
- I tried to merge but I remain my own person.
- What can you take from it?
- Individual identity persists even within close relationships.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Can you truly lose yourself in love?
- How much of yourself do you keep?
Another view
It overlooks the mutual ways couples do merge identities.
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