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We're like actors, turned loose in this world to wander in search of a phantom, endlessly searching for a half-formed shadow of our lost reality. When others demand that we become the people they want us to be, they force us to destroy the person we really are. It's a subtle kind of murder. The most loving parents and relatives commit this murder with smiles on their faces.

Jim Morrison#66

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The quote argues that forcing conformity on others destroys their true selves.
In plain terms
It calls this subtle destruction a form of murder committed even by loved ones.
What can you take from it?
Protect individual identity from pressure.

Where it applies

  • parenting
  • social pressure
  • relationships

Putting it to work

  • encourage uniqueness
  • resist pressure
  • be yourself

Questions to consider

  • Who tries to change you?
  • Are you changing others?

Another view

Some structure is necessary for safety and growth.

More from Jim Morrison

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  2. When you make peace with authority, you become authority.

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  3. Think of us as erotic politicians.

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