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I thought of my own wife's tears and her limp submission the night before - the bleak satisfaction I took from her smallness as I used her shamelessly. She's cried out, and remembering the taste of salted tears, I thought, for that instant, that I knew how the devil felt. Sex and tears, like sun and rain, were never meant to share a moment: but for a fallen soul, an act of wrong could, at times, feel very right, and that scared the hell out of me.

John Hart#4

DesireGuiltMoralityPsychologyShame

About this quote

What does it mean?
Guilt can make harmful acts feel strangely right in the moment.
In plain terms
Feeling bad about wrong actions can sometimes feel correct.
What can you take from it?
Recognize when shame masks desire.

Where it applies

  • conflict
  • intimacy
  • ethical dilemmas

Putting it to work

  • check motives
  • seek accountability

Questions to consider

  • When does guilt feel like pleasure?

Another view

It normalizes harmful behavior as a coping mechanism.

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