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I am in the awkward situation of writing a foreword to a book by a gay person. This is an awkward situation not because Joe Perez is gay, but because I have to point it out. I feel the same damn irritation as having to refer to, say, Edmund White as a 'gay writer.' Nobody has to point out that I am heterosexual, although now I hear that I am not a heterosexual but a metrosexual, although, in fact, I have never had sex with a metro in my life. But I'm sure it is a wonderful experience.

Ken Wilber#40

SocietyBiasIdentityLabelingSexuality

About this quote

What does it mean?
The author criticizes how society unnecessarily highlights minority identities while taking majority identities for granted.
In plain terms
It is annoying to constantly label people by minority traits.
What can you take from it?
Avoid defining people by single traits.

Where it applies

  • social commentary
  • identity politics
  • everyday interaction

Putting it to work

  • stop unnecessary labeling
  • question social norms

Questions to consider

  • Why do we label some but not others?
  • When is a label useful?

Another view

It minimizes the real reasons labels matter for protection.

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