Safe, sane and consensual - what do those words really mean? Assimilation, that's what.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The phrase 'Safe, sane and consensual' often functions to assimilate SM into mainstream norms rather than embrace its subversive nature.
- In plain terms
- Safe, sane, and consensual is really about fitting in with mainstream society.
- What can you take from it?
- Question if safety slogans are about comfort or control.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What does safety mean to you personally?
- Is assimilation worth the cost?
Another view
Safety standards protect people even if they feel restrictive.
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