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What does it mean?
Identity is formed by the choices we make, even if those choices do not always align with our immediate desires.
In plain terms
You become who you decide to become, regardless of whether you like every decision.
What can you take from it?
Own your choices as the defining factor of your identity.

Where it applies

  • personal development
  • navigating life decisions

Putting it to work

  • reflect on past choices
  • define personal values

Questions to consider

  • What choices have defined you most?
  • How do you align desire with decision?

Another view

Sometimes external circumstances limit our ability to choose freely.

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