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What does it mean?
We choose which values and people define our identity.
In plain terms
You pick the values that make you who you are.
What can you take from it?
Choose your influences carefully.

Where it applies

  • building character
  • leaving toxic environments

Putting it to work

  • study role models
  • define personal principles

Questions to consider

  • Whose values guide you?
  • How do you choose your 'ancestors'?

Another view

Family and history still influence us regardless of choice.

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