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He was a man who starts at a certain age with all signs showing that he's unable to produce anything of importance. And then, by refusing and refusing things which are offered him, in the end he finds, he sees, as they say; he becomes certain that he's found his own expression. It's a splendid example of a man who, through his refusals, finds his way.

Constantine P. Cavafy#18

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About this quote

What does it mean?
A man finds his unique expression not by accepting offers but by refusing everything that does not fit him.
In plain terms
He found his path by saying no to everything offered to him.
What can you take from it?
Rejection can be a tool for self-discovery.

Where it applies

  • career choices
  • artistic direction
  • personal branding

Putting it to work

  • decision making
  • creative work
  • life planning

Questions to consider

  • What have you refused that helped you grow?
  • How do you know when to say no?

Another view

Refusing everything is risky and not practical for everyone.

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