As soon as the love relationship does not lead me to me, as soon as I in a love relationship do not lead another person to himself, this love, even if it seems to be the most secure and ecstatic attachment I have ever experienced, is not true love. For real love is dedicated to continual becoming.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- True love helps both partners grow and find themselves, rather than just providing security or attachment.
- In plain terms
- Real love helps you become more yourself, not just cling to someone.
- What can you take from it?
- Love should help you grow and become yourself.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Does your relationship help you become more yourself?
- What does true growth look like in love?
Another view
It may minimize the value of stable, non-growing attachments in some contexts.
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