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While acknowledging our mutual affection by publicly assuming the relationship of husband and wife, yet in justice to ourselves and a great principle, we deem it a duty to declare that this act on our part implies no sanction of, nor promise of voluntary obedience to such of the present laws of marriage, as refuse to recognize the wife as an independent, rational being, while they confer upon the husband an injurious and unnatural superiority, investing him with legal powers which no honorable man would exercise, and which no man should possess.

Lucy Stone#15

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The couple publicly married but rejected laws that treated wives as unequal, not independent rational beings. They affirmed mutual affection while opposing legal inequality.
In plain terms
They married out of love but refused to accept laws that treated women as less than equal.
What can you take from it?
Love does not require accepting unequal laws in marriage.

Where it applies

  • marriage debates
  • feminist advocacy
  • personal principles

Putting it to work

  • challenge unequal marriage laws
  • affirm personal autonomy
  • redefine partnership

Questions to consider

  • How should marriage laws reflect equality?
  • What principles guide your relationships?

Another view

The quote critiques law but offers no alternative legal framework for marriage.

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