There's no real way for women to really learn about sex in our culture... There are articles about sex in women's magazines, but that's not the kind of information I'm after. There was this article in Cosmopolitan about How To Look Good In Bed with your lover. It was these tips like, if you put your arm under your breasts they're higher... or if you're laying on your back, your stomach is flat, or if you're having anal sex, he can't see your cellulite! That is wrong, because I get so ugly when I fuck and I don't care. And if you care what I look like when you're fucking me, you shouldn't be fucking me in the first place!!
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The quote challenges beauty standards by rejecting the idea that sexual partners should care about physical imperfections.
- In plain terms
- Sexual intimacy should be about connection, not how you look.
- What can you take from it?
- Stop obsessing over appearance during intimate moments and focus on the experience.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do beauty standards affect your intimacy?
- Is it okay to care about looks in sex?
Another view
It ignores that some people genuinely care about appearance in relationships.
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