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When Marilyn Monroe got out of the game, I wrote something like, 'Southern California's special horror notwithstanding, if the world offered nothing, nowhere to support or make bearable whatever her private grief was, then it is that world, and not she, that is at fault.' I wrote that in the first few shook-up minutes after hearing the bulletin sandwiched in between Don and Phil Everly and surrounded by all manner of whoops and whistles coming out of an audio signal generator, like you are apt to hear on the provincial radio these days. But I don't think I'd take those words back.

Marilyn Monroe#74

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About this quote

What does it mean?
A defender argues that Monroe's failure was due to a world that offered no support for her grief, not her own faults. The criticism belongs to society.
In plain terms
The world failed her, not the other way around.
What can you take from it?
Shift blame from individuals to unyielding environments.

Where it applies

  • public eulogies
  • blaming victims
  • post-mortem criticism

Putting it to work

  • reframe failure
  • offer compassion
  • question blame

Questions to consider

  • When is society responsible for individual pain?
  • How should we judge public figures?

Another view

Excusing all personal agency can hinder growth or accountability.

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