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To be a child is something one learns, as one learns the names of rivers or the kings of France. Childhood, for a child, is a sort of falseness, woodenness, stoniness, a lesson recited. Many children are aware of this - that is, aware of being children as a special, prosy condition: 'We can't do that! We're children!' Playing children is a long boring game with occasional exciting moments.

Mary McCarthy#26

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Childhood is something children learn to perform rather than a natural state.
In plain terms
Kids realize acting like children is a boring and fake game.
What can you take from it?
Children become aware of the constraints of being young.

Where it applies

  • parenting
  • developmental psychology

Putting it to work

  • understanding child behavior
  • challenging adult assumptions

Questions to consider

  • When did you feel like you were playing a role?
  • How do adults enforce childhood roles?

Another view

It overgeneralizes how all children experience growing up.

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