When you have committed an action that you cannot bear to think about, that causes you to writhe in retrospect, do not seek to evade the memory: make yourself relive it, confront it repeatedly over and over, till finally, you will discover, through sheer repetition it loses its power to pain you. It works, I guarantee you, this sure-fire guilt-eradicator, like a homeopathic medicine - like in small doses applied to like. It works, but I am not sure that it is a good thing.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Facing guilty memories repeatedly reduces their emotional power over time.
- In plain terms
- Keep thinking about your guilt until it stops hurting.
- What can you take from it?
- Confront painful memories to reduce their sting.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What memory haunts you?
- Can you face it directly?
Another view
This method might desensitize you to genuine remorse.
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