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What does it mean?
If someone loves another person despite flaws, ask if the person changed or if the lover changed.
In plain terms
If you loved someone yesterday and today, did they change or did you?
What can you take from it?
Question whether your perception of others has changed more than they have.

Where it applies

  • relationship conflicts
  • self-reflection
  • judgment

Putting it to work

  • re-evaluate assumptions
  • focus on consistency
  • acknowledge your growth

Questions to consider

  • Did you change or them?
  • What defines someone's identity?

Another view

People do change, and assuming they haven't can ignore real transformation.

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