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What does it mean?
It asks if one person's identity can be so consumed by another's that they lose their own soul.
In plain terms
Is it possible she has become him and lost herself?
What can you take from it?
Deep connection can feel like losing your own identity.

Where it applies

  • codependency
  • deep love
  • personality shift

Putting it to work

  • maintain self in relationships
  • recognize loss of identity

Questions to consider

  • Can you lose yourself in love?
  • Where is the line between unity and loss?

Another view

The concept of a soul is abstract and debatable.

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