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What does it mean?
She protects her children but withdraws from people she needs out of fear of loss.
In plain terms
She gives her children but pulls away from those who need her.
What can you take from it?
Fear of abandonment can cause withdrawal from needed connections.

Where it applies

  • attachment issues
  • parenting
  • loneliness

Putting it to work

  • notice defensive withdrawal
  • overcome fear of need

Questions to consider

  • Why do we push away what we need?
  • How does fear change relationships?

Another view

Not all parents behave this way toward children versus others.

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