She might be protective and possessive with her children whom she thought of as needing her, but with the people she needed, she was the opposite. If she feared they would be taken from her, she withdrew from them; she stopped permitting herself to need them.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- She protects her children but withdraws from people she needs out of fear of loss.
- In plain terms
- She gives her children but pulls away from those who need her.
- What can you take from it?
- Fear of abandonment can cause withdrawal from needed connections.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why do we push away what we need?
- How does fear change relationships?
Another view
Not all parents behave this way toward children versus others.
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