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'I'm not in love with [her] because she's the most beautiful young woman [here] and therefore quite possibly in the entire world. I'm in love with her because we can talk together, because of the way she thinks, the sound of her voice, the way she cocks her head to listen to an idea that she doesn't agree with, the way she rests her hand on mine when she's trying to persuade me.

Orson Scott Card#319

LoveConnectionBeautyConversationIntellect

About this quote

What does it mean?
Love stems from connection and intellectual compatibility rather than physical beauty alone.
In plain terms
I love her for how we talk and think together, not just her looks.
What can you take from it?
Lasting love values minds and conversation over beauty.

Where it applies

  • relationships
  • marriage
  • dating

Putting it to work

  • prioritize conversation in relationships
  • look beyond appearance

Questions to consider

  • What draws you to people beyond looks?
  • How important is conversation in love?

Another view

Physical attraction can be important too.

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