It isn't a question of what you need. It never is. It's a question of what he needs. He needs to feel superior to you.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Conflicts often stem from one person needing to feel superior rather than actual needs.
- In plain terms
- People fight to feel superior, not because of real needs.
- What can you take from it?
- Identify ego needs to resolve interpersonal conflicts.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why is this person upset?
- Are you trying to win?
Another view
Sometimes real needs do drive conflict as well.
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