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I trust you because I've come to know you, and coming to know you, I've learned to love you. I've fallen in love with your boldness, your humility, your innocence, your kindness, your willingness. I know that you will stand by me as best you can. But you don't know what my husband needs to know. You can't do what my husband needs to do. I can trust your heart, your king's heart, but your mind doesn't know what it needs to know, your hands don't have in them the skills they need to have. I had no choice but to marry you. But little by little I have come to long for you to include me within the circle of your arms, of your mind, of your pure love. To embrace me, to give me babies I was born to have, to help me raise them. And I don't care which world we raise them in, yours or mine or some other we haven't seen yet

Orson Scott Card#568

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Trust and love grow from knowing someone, but practical compatibility and shared life goals require conscious effort to build.
In plain terms
Love can start with trust and admiration, but it needs shared skills and family goals to last.
What can you take from it?
Love requires both emotional connection and practical partnership.

Where it applies

  • navigating arranged marriages
  • building a life together

Putting it to work

  • cultivating shared goals

Questions to consider

  • What does true partnership require beyond love?

Another view

The speaker assumes love is primarily functional.

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