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He was close to her hour after hour, the smell of her, the touch of her breath on the hairs of his arms or on his ears as she leaned over his shoulder to watch. He thought sometimes he might go insane with desire for her; but he could not think of a way to change what lay between them, and though he thought she liked him well enough now, he still didn't know if their friendship was yet the thing a marriage should be made of. Do you love me? He wanted to ask her, to demand of her. But fearing the answer would be a wan 'I'm sorry, Ivan,' he did not speak

Orson Scott Card#567

LoveCommunicationFearDesireUncertainty

About this quote

What does it mean?
Physical intimacy and proximity fuel desire, but uncertainty about emotional compatibility silences important questions.
In plain terms
Desire grows from closeness, yet fear of rejection keeps someone from asking if they are truly in love.
What can you take from it?
Fear of rejection can prevent deepening a relationship.

Where it applies

  • unspoken romantic tension
  • evaluating a relationship

Putting it to work

  • confronting relationship fears

Questions to consider

  • What questions keep you from speaking your truth?

Another view

It portrays silence as the only option in the face of uncertainty.

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