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It had to be a trick or you couldn't have done it. It's the bind we were in. We had to have a commander with so much empathy that he would think like [them], understand them and anticipate them. So much compassion that he would win the love of his underlings and work with them like a perfect machine... But somebody with that much compassion could never be the killer we needed. Could never go into battle willing to win at all costs. If you knew, you couldn't do it. If you were the kind of person who would do it even if you knew, you could never have understood [them] well enough.

Orson Scott Card#64

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The bind requires a commander with deep empathy to understand enemies but the killer instinct to win, a combination the speaker claims is impossible.
In plain terms
You need someone who understands enemies deeply to win, but that same understanding prevents them from killing.
What can you take from it?
Empathy and the will to destroy are often incompatible.

Where it applies

  • military command
  • ethical leadership
  • strategic planning

Putting it to work

  • balancing traits
  • selecting leaders
  • accepting paradoxes

Questions to consider

  • Can you love the enemy and destroy them?
  • What traits make a leader?

Another view

The claim that such a person cannot exist is debatable.

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