It was from her that I drew my identity, it was around her that I built my hopes, it was in her that I had my life.... She was deeply good, brilliant of mind and generous of heart, and she loved me. Our bond was stronger than blood, than religion, than language, than marriage. It was the bond of self-hood. I saw the world through her eyes, and she through mine. We - almost - were the same person
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The narrator defines their identity and life through another person whose character is deeply admired.
- In plain terms
- I built my life around her and our bond was so strong we were almost the same person.
- What can you take from it?
- Identity can be deeply intertwined with another person.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Where does my identity end?
- How much should we merge in love?
Another view
Total identification with another can erode individual autonomy.
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