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[Her] every movement betrayed the fact that she thought she was even uglier than in fact she was. Her shoulders slumped and she seemed to shrink as she walked, as if she hoped that if she became very unobtrusive enough she would entirely disappear. Of course her very ungainliness served only to call more attention to her, but I have learned that human adolescents never understand that the best way to avoid notice is to behave normally.

Orson Scott Card#696

BehaviorAttentionInsecurity

About this quote

What does it mean?
An adolescent's insecurity makes them act in ways that ironically draw more attention.
In plain terms
Trying to hide by acting weird often makes you stand out more.
What can you take from it?
Normal behavior is the best way to avoid unwanted attention.

Where it applies

  • public speaking
  • social anxiety
  • teenage years

Putting it to work

  • act naturally
  • accept yourself
  • observe others

Questions to consider

  • Why do we try to hide?
  • Is normality attractive?

Another view

Not everyone can simply behave normally due to social pressures.

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