Why can you be so deeply understanding of her, and so completely incapable of understanding me? ... You never needed me the was [she] needs me. You never needed anybody. If you had ever bothered to come to know me, you'd know that that is the exact opposite of the truth. Well, well. So we part in utter ignorance of each other.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- One character feels misunderstood and rejected because the other does not need them as much as they need the other.
- In plain terms
- You understand her but not me because you do not need me like she needs me.
- What can you take from it?
- Feelings of inadequacy often stem from perceived differences in dependency.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Does need define value in relationships?
- How do you measure being understood?
Another view
It assumes need is the only basis for connection.
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