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She didn't sound glad. It irritated him a little. Hurt his feelings. But instead of going off to nurse his wounds, he merely noticed his emotions as if he were a dispassionate observer. He saw himself; important self-made man, yet at home a little boy who can be hurt, not even by a word, but by a short pause of indecision. Sensitive, sensitive, and he was amused at himself: for a moment he almost saw himself standing a few inches away, could observe even the bemused expression on his own face

Orson Scott Card#720

EmotionsSelf awarenessDetachment

About this quote

What does it mean?
A character notices his own hurt feelings but observes them objectively rather than reacting emotionally.
In plain terms
He felt hurt but watched his reaction like an outside observer.
What can you take from it?
Observing emotions can reduce their impact on behavior.

Where it applies

  • conflict
  • introspection

Putting it to work

  • managing reactions

Questions to consider

  • Is observing emotions better than feeling them?
  • How do we handle being hurt?

Another view

Detachment can sometimes prevent genuine connection.

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