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What does it mean?
Highlighting a fundamental mismatch in how two people value their marriage.
In plain terms
They valued the marriage differently.
What can you take from it?
Shared values are essential for relationships.

Where it applies

  • marriage counseling
  • conflict
  • breakup

Putting it to work

  • discussing expectations
  • checking alignment

Questions to consider

  • Do you want the same thing?
  • How do you view love?

Another view

Relationships can evolve with different needs.

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