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What does it mean?
Avoiding contact to preserve emotional stability.
In plain terms
She declines company because it reminds her of the past.
What can you take from it?
Past selves can make present interactions painful.

Where it applies

  • avoiding old friends
  • dealing with trauma

Putting it to work

  • protecting emotional health
  • setting boundaries

Questions to consider

  • What memories do you avoid?
  • Who reminds you of the past?

Another view

Avoidance may prevent closure.

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