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What does it mean?
Wilde humorously notes that forgiving enemies can be a form of revenge because it frustrates them.
In plain terms
Forgiving foes irritates them.
What can you take from it?
Use forgiveness as a strategic advantage.

Where it applies

  • conflict
  • personal relationships
  • politics

Putting it to work

  • practice letting go
  • remain calm under provocation

Questions to consider

  • What does forgiveness achieve for you?
  • Can forgiveness be genuine without ulterior motives?

Another view

Forgiveness may not always impact the other party.

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