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What does it mean?
Pretending to be natural is a performance that can be irritating.
In plain terms
Being natural is often a pose.
What can you take from it?
Avoid forced authenticity; be genuine.

Where it applies

  • networking events
  • social media posts
  • first impressions

Putting it to work

  • relax and be yourself
  • stop over‑curating

Questions to consider

  • When does authenticity become a performance?
  • How much self‑presentation is acceptable?

Another view

Some degree of social performance is necessary for politeness.

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