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People have (with the help of conventions) oriented all their solutions toward the easy and toward the easiest side of the easy; but it is clear that we must hold to what is difficult; everything alive holds to it, everything in Nature grows and defends itself in its own way and is characteristically and spontaneously itself, seeks at all costs to be so and against all opposition. We know little, but that we must hold to what is difficult is a certainty that will not forsake us; it is good to be solitary, for solitude is difficult; that something is difficult must be a reason the more for us to do it. To love is good, too: love being difficult. For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.

Rainer Maria Rilke#46

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About this quote

What does it mean?
We tend to choose easy solutions, but true growth requires embracing difficulty, especially in love, which is the ultimate test.
In plain terms
Choosing difficulty, especially in love, leads to true growth.
What can you take from it?
Seek out challenging tasks to develop character.

Where it applies

  • career
  • relationships
  • personal development

Putting it to work

  • take on tough projects
  • practice deep listening

Questions to consider

  • What difficult task have you avoided?
  • How can love be both challenging and rewarding?

Another view

Embracing difficulty without support can cause burnout.

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