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What does it mean?
I treat my friends like books—keep them nearby but rarely use them.
In plain terms
Friends are kept close but not often called upon.
What can you take from it?
Value friendships without overburdening them.

Where it applies

  • social circles
  • personal space

Putting it to work

  • maintain contact
  • respect boundaries

Questions to consider

  • What does it mean to ‘use’ a friend?
  • How can you balance closeness and independence?

Another view

Comparing people to objects can diminish genuine connection.

More from Ralph Waldo Emerson

  1. The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one.

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  2. My friends have come to me unsought. The great God gave them to me. By oldest right, by the divine affinity of virtue with itself, I find them, or rather not I…

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  3. Two may talk and one may hear, but three cannot take part in a conversation of the most sincere and searching sort.

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