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What does it mean?
Harsh words can damage a person's spirit more than physical harm.
In plain terms
Mean words hurt more than sticks and stones.
What can you take from it?
Choose kind language to protect others' morale.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • parenting
  • team meetings

Putting it to work

  • use constructive feedback
  • practice active listening

Questions to consider

  • How do your words affect others?
  • When is bluntness justified?

Another view

Sometimes honest criticism is necessary despite its sting.

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