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When one of your children tells a lie, be honest with him; tell him that you have told hundreds of them yourself. Tell him it is not the best way; that you have tried it. Tell him as the man did in Maine when his boy left home: 'John, honesty is the best policy; I have tried both.' Be honest with him. Suppose a man as much larger than you as you are larger than a child five years old, should come at you with a liberty pole in his hand, and in a voice of thunder shout, 'Who broke that plate?' There is not a solitary one of you who would not swear you never saw it, or that it was cracked when you got it. Why not be honest with these children? Just imagine a man who deals in stocks whipping his boy for putting false rumors afloat! Think of a lawyer beating his own flesh and blood for evading the truth when he makes half of his own living that way! Think of a minister punishing his child for not telling all he thinks! Just think of it!

Robert G. Ingersoll#227

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Parents should model honesty when teaching children, admitting their own past lies.
In plain terms
Tell your kids you lied too, so they know honesty is the right choice.
What can you take from it?
Lead by honest example.

Where it applies

  • child discipline
  • family discussion
  • moral education

Putting it to work

  • confess past mistakes
  • explain consequences truthfully

Questions to consider

  • How do you teach values?
  • Is honesty always best?

Another view

Some parents may avoid admitting past wrongs.

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