When one of your children tells a lie, be honest with him; tell him that you have told hundreds of them yourself. Tell him it is not the best way; that you have tried it. Tell him as the man did in Maine when his boy left home: 'John, honesty is the best policy; I have tried both.' Be honest with him. Suppose a man as much larger than you as you are larger than a child five years old, should come at you with a liberty pole in his hand, and in a voice of thunder shout, 'Who broke that plate?' There is not a solitary one of you who would not swear you never saw it, or that it was cracked when you got it. Why not be honest with these children? Just imagine a man who deals in stocks whipping his boy for putting false rumors afloat! Think of a lawyer beating his own flesh and blood for evading the truth when he makes half of his own living that way! Think of a minister punishing his child for not telling all he thinks! Just think of it!
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Parents should model honesty when teaching children, admitting their own past lies.
- In plain terms
- Tell your kids you lied too, so they know honesty is the right choice.
- What can you take from it?
- Lead by honest example.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you teach values?
- Is honesty always best?
Another view
Some parents may avoid admitting past wrongs.
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